The Physical Death and Dying 

Resource Portal

Within the Physical Death and Dying Resource Portal, you may discover practical  information, support and new strength with which to nurture inner peace and to renew your faith in the innate and immeasurable goodness in all of life.   Whether you are close to someone who has recently passed or is going through such a transition, or you are a professional care-giver, or you yourself may soon be graduating from this earthly existence, this can carry you to the far-most borders of physical, emotional, mental and spiritual overwhelm, even if you think you are fairly prepared.  No college course, no training curriculum is going to make it easy for you; you never get a chance to practice first; there is no cut-and-dried recipe or meta-list that can possibly cover all needs and circumstances.  If you have been through end-of-life passages before with loved ones and feel at least you know what you are in for, still there are always whole new challenges to be faced with every such encounter.   So, all things considered, it is relentlessly normal in these circumstances to feel inundated with a hurricane-force barrage of issues -- and all of them are BIG and require tremendous in-the-moment clarity, compassion, composure and wisdom. 

Just at a time when you and everyone else flips regularly between being mentally and emotionally numb on the one hand, and on the other, at the mercy of chaotic emotions, if there was ever a situation for which you longed for everything to reflect a 1-2-3, right-at-your-fingertips simplicity, this would certainly be it.   Within my own circle of family and friends and through circumstances in which no one was prepared [a child's unexpected passing / car accident; a parent's fatal heart attack] and also when we had "adequate" time to prepare and to have a loving sense of closure [prolonged illness], we all felt the tremendous strain of the endless details, demands and inner tempests that could not be avoided, no matter how numb or chaotic we may have felt.  In all cases, it was as if an entirely different roadmap had to be invented for the given circumstances, the blow-by-blow, day-by-day practical necessities requiring astute attention and sensitivity. 

The Physical Death and Dying Resource Portal grew out of those experiences.  It is meant to be a supportive touchstone, a reference point that can give you a sense of perspective.   The site map, for example, can give you an overview of issues you might compare to or get inspiration from for your own mental checklist.  So much for the details.  There is also a great deal of information regarding various death-and-dying focal areas, such as suicide crisis intervention resources, preparing for your body's death, and special death-and-dying needs.   A more "academic" approach is available as well, such as in the focal areas of Death and Dying Controversies and Many Cultures, One Heart.

Most of all, you will find here a sense of personal support and even community.  We may not share a universal philosophy or religion or spiritual perspective, but in our physical and psychospiritual human-hood, we do share the certainty -- and uncertainties -- of physical death and dying, and of physical transcendence.  Sometimes you just need to get in touch with the reality of others having been where you are.  Maybe you just want to hear or read others' stories.   How did they deal with the challenges you now face?  Or maybe you need someone to be there for you, to talk to, to be heard.  Especially during moments when virtually everyone we know and love is grieving, we can feel so paradoxically alone and cut off; there may be reluctance to express personal needs for support and empathy.   Along these lines, you may find the following focal areas helpful: 

• Grieving Support & Resources

• For KIDS Only

• For Young People Only

• Suicide Crisis Hotlines, Information 

• Healing Inspiration

• Fear of Death & Dying

Whether it is the need for practical information, inspiration, or healing that drew you to this site, may you that which nurtures you and adds lightness to your steps along your path.  If you have suggestions for how we may improve or add value to what is offered here, please contact us. 

May peace bless and guide you.